“If you want to be successful, this is an invitation to say ‘no’ to the things that don’t really matter, so you have the time, the energy, motivation, and passion to say ‘yes’ to the things you care about.”
As Jack Canfield, co-author of Chicken Soup for the Soul, has used the phrase “If you want to be successful, you will have to learn how to say ‘no’ to the good so you can say ‘yes’ to the great. This statement is so powerful and when I share it with clients, they see how many times they say ‘yes’ to things that might not be empowering them.
Saying ‘no’ can be uncomfortable; we want to please people, we don’t want to be alone, we don’t want to let others down, or perhaps we fear that people will not like us if we start saying ‘no.’
The truth is the word ‘no’ triggers all sorts of emotions within us all. We recall being denied as a child or the rejection that came due to a request. Forget to mention the ramifications that we are left with processing another’s change in character toward us. The word ‘no’ is something that the wealthiest, most successful people on the planet use everyday, and if we want to be successful, then saying ‘no’ must become a part of our regular vocabulary. Saying ‘no’ is not personal, it is merely a matter of a quick assessment – will saying ‘yes’ to this get me closer to my goal? If not, the answer is ‘no.’